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Fifty Shades of Grey: Differentiating Between Fantasy and Reality

Martin

Sep 26, 2013 — 3 min read

You Want Grey Shades or Real?

Fifty Shades of Grey has been appearing in news frequently ever since the leads were recently cast with Charlie Kaufman as Christian Grey and Dakota Johnson as Anastasia Steele.

Many of the fans are looking forward to seeing the book adapted to the screen, but will it appear as romantic or come off as disturbing when seen in live action?

When Fifty Shades of Grey first hit headlines, especially after becoming a surprise bestseller hit, I was curious.

But not curious enough to actually read the book.

When it kept showing up online, my curiosity grew, especially when I found out that it was a fan fiction based on Twilight.

In short, it was supposed to be like a grown up, darker version of now infamous sparkly vampire series.

I was never a fan of Stephenie Meyer’s work.

There have been some fan fiction that ended up being better than the original so I decided to give E.L. James’ book the benefit of the doubt.

A friend of mine lent me a copy of her book and I skimmed through it.

Here’s The Lowdown On The Story…

Christian Grey is a 27-year-old self-made billionaire, who is also incredibly handsome, with copper-colored hair and grey eyes that “smolder”.

He is fluent in foreign languages, able to fly an aircraft, is apparently the best lover in the world and is well-endowed to boot.

At the start of series, Anastasia Steele is 21 years old.

She is an pale and ordinary young woman with brown hair and blue eyes.

Christian falls head over heels in love with her and the Fifty Shades series follows the dynamics of their unusual relationship, which revolves around Bondage Discipline Sadism and Masochism (BDSM).

Fantasy Vs. Reality

A lot of women who have read the series think that Christian Grey is the ultimate dream guy.

However, there are those who also think that he’s creepy and obsessive.

I belong in the latter group.

When I skimmed through the story, I found out that he followed Anastasia at a club through GPS.

Some would find this gesture as romantic but it can also be alarming as it’s almost like you are being stalked.

Later on, Christian keeps Anastasia away from her friends and family and even controls what she wears or eats.

Another disturbing thing is his confession that his fondest desire is “to hurt her”.

If this happens in real life, run away as fast as you can!

I have nothing against the book or its fans but I would like echo Teresa Medeiros’ words from her blog.

Dear Young Women and Teenage Girls of the World: I have NOTHING against 50 SHADES OF GREY or Christian Grey. The book is fiction and Christian is a fantasy.

It’s Okay to Explore…

Some couples have tried to explore BDSM after reading E.L. James’ book so they can spice up their relationship. In fact, the series has been speculated to be the cause of the rise in emergencies involving handcuffs.

If you and your partner are feeling adventurous, it’s okay to explore.

However, if you are not comfortable with it, you should say no.

BDSM is not for everyone.

If it is not consensual, it can be considered abuse or even rape.

Don’t be afraid to seek legal help if you feel the need to.

Your relationship should not be detrimental to yourself. It should not make you lose your self-identity.

A guy like Christian Grey is better off in our fantasies than in real life.

Fifty Shades Lighter..

Leaving behind heated discussions about this erotic series, it’s nice to know that some people do know how to differentiate between fantasy and reality. They even poke fun at it.

On the lighter side of Fifty Shades of Grey, here are some very fun readings from some famous celebrity figures.

A painfully hilarious book reading by Gilbert Gottfried