How to Bounce Back After Being Dumped
Dumped by Prince Charming!
It was New Year’s Eve – about 30 minutes before midnight to be precise – and I had just been dumped. I had only been dating Prince Charming for about a week, so this wasn’t Anna Kerenina level heartbreak. But still – New Year?!
In a word, I felt humiliated.
At five minutes to midnight, I was brushing my teeth.
While neighbors rang in the New Year with laughter and clinking glasses, I was in bed.
Alone.
My natural reaction might have been to lock myself in the house for the next two weeks and survive solely on jumbo tubs of ice cream and B-grade Jennifer Aniston movies.
But I knew there were better ways to deal with heartbreak.
Read on to find out how I recovered from my New Years’ humiliation and other heart-wrenching breakups, and how you can too.
Wallow in Self-pity (for a little while)
Putting a time limit on moping allows you to mourn while preventing you from becoming a lonely, grimacing cat lady. Depending on the intensity of your feelings, one day to one week of pouting is enough.
The longer you wallow in grungy, antisocial despair, the more likely you are to become seriously depressed.
After a while, you won’t be able to stop your cyclical, negative thought patterns.
To put it simply, you’ll go crazy.
Instead, allow yourself to really feel your sadness for a planned period of time and then move on. But how can you move on from the sting of rejection?
Do NOT Analyze
Did you know that no matter why your man broke up with you, you are still, for all intents and purposes, dumped? So, before you waste one single nanosecond considering the reasons behind his sudden change of heart – Stop.
And tell yourself: It. Does. Not. Matter.
Analyzing his actions won’t change the situation. Like prolonged moping, it can only lead to cyclical, crazy-making thought patterns.
Instead of asking why to ask what. I know a friend of mine asked this and found love, strangely enough, on an online dating site in the UK.
What can I do now to feel better about the circumstances?
This brings me to my next point …
Get Out of the House and Carpe Diem, Dammit!
Your bruised ego might try to convince you to stay at home. Instead, you should do the opposite. Good things happen to those who leave the house. Think of socializing as a regimen, like showering or exercise.
It might be difficult at first, but it will get easier. Going out will distract you from your sadness. Soon you’ll see that life continues with or without loverboy.
An added bonus is that being a go-getter makes you more attractive to all men. Don’t be surprised if your ex comes crawling back with roses and apologies once he sees that you are living life to its fullest. By then, you’ll be so busy flirting and having fun that you won’t want him.
So, go ahead and join the party – heck, why not even start the party! Life, adventure, and possibly new love, is waiting for you.
In case you’re wondering, nearly every one of my exes has tried to get me back at some point. If I had stayed at home collecting cats as I waited by the phone, I might have accepted.
Fortunately for me, I got a life.
I’ve learned, being alone on New Years’ is better than kissing a frog at midnight.
Now that’s something to raise your glasses to.
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