The 5 Relationship Types and 2 To Get Rid Of

Friends or Foes?

We travel through life and encounter different people.

Some we simply can’t stand to be around for more than a minute and others are in our lives forever, with the majority falling somewhere in-between the two extremes.

Let’s have a look at the broad types of these relationships and then why you need to identify those in your current circle of friends who you need to jettison.

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Toxic Relationship

You’ll likely have had some friends (or even lovers) that fall into this type.

When you first meet them, they have a quality you like and attach to.

Usually though, and after a short while, they start giving you negative vibes, followed by them patching things up so you both remain friends. The toxic relationship sees this friendship repeat this cycle, over and over again.

You fall into a pattern of acceptance.

Do you know what’s happening to you though?

Your positive outlook level on life is in a downward spiral. No matter what you’ve said in the past, the cycle continues to repeat.

Up and Down Relationship

Similar to The Toxic Relationship where the friend bombards you with negativity.

Think of this one this way:

• You are on a higher positive level than the other person.
• You unconsciously try to convert the negative energy into positivity and raise the bar
• They sometimes are able to replace their bad thoughts
• Their positive levels ebb – this friendship is still destructive as you’re drawn down and need to put a lot of effort into the direction of where it’s headed.

The Friend Relationship

Most people you meet in life are good-natured – why would you really want to be anything else?

These are the guys and gals with who you love having a coffee or lunch.

While you can shoot the breeze for hours, on areas around work or common interests, there just isn’t that intimate foundational relationship.

These friends are ‘people to treasure’ for a lifetime – they’ve all got the potential to move into the next level of …

Love Relationship

This is typically the domain of close family and lifelong friends.

What is interesting is that some of these are actually and unknowingly, toxic.

Have a think yourself.

• Do you have family members that are continually sabotaging your efforts to be a better person?
• When you’re in a great frame of mind, do you have any lifelong friends who react, instantly, with some small negative irritant or suggestion that, in hindsight, takes the glow off your wonderful day?

Personal Example

A long-time friend who I’ll call Fred.
We’ve been good friends for a long long time. He’s a little older than me and I expect to get a little staid in life as well.

In hindsight, we simply grew up together and had a couple of common interests which was the bond. When one relationship challenge is introduced (by me I’ll admit), he takes every opportunity to dump on me, as opposed to acceptance and moving forward with life.

While I love solid and enduring relationships in my life, my response wasn’t what you might think. I examined what he was continuing to give me which was a reign of crap. Should I sit back, take the crap and be in a continual cycle of trying to placate him? Errr, not for me.

I have plenty of people in my life that give me positive thoughts and vibrations, despite my human failings.

I now have to classify Fred in the Toxic Relationship category.

The Only Love Relationship

OK, maybe I should remove the word ‘only’. Truth be told, life offers us up a variety of true lovers that could be with us for a season or a lifetime.

True Love doesn’t necessarily need to be Lifetime Eternal Love.

I digress.

You’ll know that rapid heart-rate feeling of your lover.

I’ve had it a number of times in my life, with different women and never as much as I have with my partner.

With my wife, it’s that feeling or emotion of being in (mostly) bliss and contentment when I’m with her. The subtle smile you have in your brain when your eyes open in the morning and she’s sleeping quietly next to you and you steal an early morning cuddle.

That’s the benefits feeling of a Love Relationship.

Take Stock and Take Action

It’s been a long read and here’s where I’d like you to take stock of the people in your life, right now.

From all the people in your life, who are the ones that fall in the Toxic and Up/Down areas?

Bear in mind, you need to look at everyone in your life as some of your lifelong (Love Relationship) friends are quite likely to also be Toxic, as my own example highlighted.

Your options really are easy too.

• They can move up into the positive realm and stay there, to uplift you both
• … or they can’t. You need to plan to and get rid of them. It’s just that simple.

Take Some Action and Speak Your Mind

I know it’s been a long read and here’s what I want you to do next:

• Do you think you’ve got people in your life that are Toxic or Up/Down?
• What are your honest thoughts on getting rid of friends, based on my criteria?
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