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Follow Along And We’ll Show You How To Ruin Your Relationship

It might surprise you to hear that building a perfect relationship is one of the simplest things to do… and ruining it is equally achievable.

There are, of course, some easy sure-fire-ways, that will help you inflict considerable damage onto your relationship without even trying that hard.

Infidelity, for example, or abuse are usual “no-nos”.

But what about something a little more subtle?

What are the ways of ruining your relationship with a little more finesse?

Well, dirty socks on the floor, picking your nose and flicking it across the front room, chewing your dinner with your mouth open; there are many irritations and bad habits you could fall back on.

These behaviours, like the relentless drip of Chinese torture, will erode the very fabric of a relationship; eating away slowly until one day, the couple realises the magic has gone.

It’s these small inconsiderations that relationship psychiatrist, John Jacobs (author of “All You Need Is Love And Other Lies About Marriage: How To Save Your Marriage Before It’s Too Late”) suggests are the reason most relationships fall apart.

John Jacobs  … When marriages don’t work, often the partners are fighting not over big issues but over petty differences in style

The trick then, when it comes to ruining a relationship, is to do the little annoying things consistently.

Persist with those little irritations so that they work themselves into deep cracks and fissures.

They may start out as meaningless botherations, but bit by bit, they’ll slowly drive your partner up the wall.

Michael Cunningham, a psychologist out of the University of Louisville studied these little annoyances in 160 couples and found that (not surprisingly) individuals suppressed those irritating behaviours early on in the relationship and then allowed them to emerge once the relationship became “secure”!
Cunningham described these resulting annoyances as “social allergens”; where the first exposure produced a small negative reaction, but each subsequent contact increased sensitivity.
This is the perfect example of why some long-term relationships can implode over what seems like minor infringements.

• So, what are these ticking time bombs?
• How do we create that twitchy trigger finger?

The answers are actually quite different depending on whether you are trying to work your husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend into a frenzy.

Let’s Start With The Ladies First:

If you are trying to aggravate your male partner, then you need to:

• Give him the silent treatment
• Bring up things he’s done in the distant past
• Be critical (it doesn’t matter how small the thing you are criticising… better yet, criticise everything)
• Be especially stubborn and never give in (even if you are proven to be completely wrong)

And For The Men, Take Heed:

If, on the other hand, you are attempting to infuriate your female partner then you need to:

• Forget important dates (birthdays and anniversaries are perfect)
• Burp and/or fart noisily (if you can do both at the same time, you get bonus points)
• Stare at other women
• Be especially stubborn and never give in (even if you are proven to be completely wrong)

OK, these are things which you can start to do today which will slowly, but surely ruin your relationship.

However, there are also some things which you can avoid doing, with equally damaging effects.

Avoid Apologizing

Whatever you do, do not let go of your ego.

Showing humility and conceding to your partner is a way of letting your partner know that the relationship is more important to you than your own pride.

Avoid Compromising

If you start trying to understand and accommodate your partner’s likes and dislikes you are showing that you are trying to connect with them on many levels.

This will not help you ruin your relationship.

Instead, hold steadfast to whatever you want (or don’t want) and stick to your guns.

Avoid Showing Respect

To really ruin a relationship, just take your partner for granted.

Expect certain things to happen (tidying, washing, ironing, etc) and don’t show any signs of gratitude or appreciation.

Avoid Acceptance

If, like many people, you go into a relationship hoping that your partner will change with time – like the aging of a fine wine – then make sure you keep nagging and nagging until they do eventually change.

Don’t accept them for who they are; explain that you are trying to make them a better person.

Avoid Courtesy

No one likes to feel underappreciated.

It’s much easier to ruin a relationship if you make a point of not respecting them.

Avoid Investing Time In Your Relationship

Let’s face it, there’s so much going on in your life that time spent on the relationship means less time spent on other important areas (shopping, web-surfing, working, exercising… the list is endless).

For you to be most successful in those pursuits you are going have to spend less time on your relationship.

A perfect way to help ruin it.

Avoid Making An Effort

Small actions that show you still try and make an effort (like dressing up nicely for dinner or taking care of your appearance) will often elongate a relationship.

A quick way to ruin a relationship is to stop making an effort.

Avoid Quality Time Together

Try to avoid special time together; just the two of you.

This is relatively easy to do when you have children, because it’s straightforward coming up with an excuse why you can’t go out to dinner, etc.

However, even if you don’t have kids, there’s always a reason not to go out together.

The Ruin Wrap-Up

So there it is!

You can follow this list of useful pointers on how to ruin a relationship, and I assure you, the relationship will never result in a successful and happy long-term bond.

If you are really struggling to ruin your relationship, you can always speak to a professional relationship therapist and whatever they suggest… do the opposite.

In some cases, this can have a dramatic effect and clients can often see the results in a very short period of time.

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