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Love or Passion?

Martin Cooney

Dec 26, 2011 — 5 min read

What’s Love Got To Do With It?

Is it a second-hand emotion, like the song says?

I think it’s the overall combination of many emotions when you think about it.

What Are Those Love Emotions?

Love is definitely a paradox. You can be in a relationship with love and still have an abundance of negative emotions swirling around everywhere.

Think of those situations where you love your partner and you’re in an argument. There are moments when you could just scream! You could throw something out the window. Yeah, love can be attached to loathing too.

Love really is an attachment. It has levels of strength.

There are attached emotions too.

Communication

Check my recent poll on the Most Important Aspect Of A Relationship, the majority told us that open communication was crucial to any healthy relationship.

The people have spoken!

If you both are unable to communicate on an intimate level about anything and everything between you, that builds up anxiety, lack of empathy, and understanding, walled barriers are subconsciously erected and the end result is a short-lived relationship that’s going nowhere.

Passion

Don’t just lay there, do something.

The overriding urge is that you simply can’t get enough of your significant other.

It’s as if you just want to squeeze them all the time, cuddle them forever, kiss them like there’s no tomorrow, ‘Baby, I do want you with me … Forever’

Trust

Unwavering and total.

They have and know your innermost secrets, they could easily destroy you in an instant and you know with all your heart that would never enter their mind.

Without you, they are nothing.

Without them, you are half what you are.

That’s the sort of giving I’m talking about when trust takes over your very being.

Transparency

When you absolutely trust your partner to such a level, everything else is irrelevant.

You want them to know everything about you, good as well as the bad.

Does it make any difference? If it does, they’ve got an issue themselves.

Lust

noun:

intense sexual desire or appetite.
uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
a passionate or overmastering desire or craving (usually followed by for ): a lust for power.
ardent enthusiasm; zest; relish: an enviable lust for life.
to have intense sexual desire.
to have a yearning or desire; have a strong or excessive craving (often followed by for or after ).

So lust is a healthy emotional response for the person you love.

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It’s good to lust after your partner who you love.

They’ll feel desired and an integral part of your life.

Conclusion

Now while a lot of readers might suggest passion has nothing to do with love, they’d be right.

We love our pets, our kids, and our friends. It’s unlikely any of us feel comfortable rolling in passion when it comes to these people.

When it comes to our life partner though, I’m going to tell you now that passion most definitely has to be a core and integral component to that relationship.

Your partnership or marriage needs love, it needs lust, it needs passion, it needs communication, and most of all, it needs both partners to play an active role in keeping all those areas front of mind and action.