breakup

Getting Back with the Ex Love Who Got Away

Martin

Jul 25, 2013 — 4 min read

Is Getting Back an Ex Worth It?

will getting back with an ex really work — **Will it work and should it work?**

When a relationship ends and is not replaced by a new one, admit it or not, you are tempted to get back together with an ex, any of them.

Getting back together with an ex has a humongous pile of bad stipulations.

There are a lot of reasons why you should never get back with an ex-lover.

One major reason is that when the relationship did not work out before in the first place, then why getting back together will be any different?

Most of the time, it is a bad idea to reconcile with an ex and try to forge another relationship again.

An ex is an ex for a reason, and either one of you has made a decision to exclude the other from your life.

What if you are getting back with your ex because you feel that your past relationship was never complete?
What if giving the relationship another go can be the beginning of a better chapter for your romance?

Will you go and give it another chance?

Some relationships do not end up in a messy, chaotic breakup.

Why Would You Want To?

There are couples out there who have an amicable breakup because they both feel that pursuing the relationship will not do both of them any good.

There are couples who break up because they realize that their relationship is stunting their growth as individuals.

They need to attain a certain level of maturity before they give their relationship another try.

There are also a set of good reasons why getting back with an ex is a good idea.

This is especially true if the breakup was not that dramatic or messy.

Or when either of you does not harbor thoughts about murdering each other while you sleep.

Another good reason for getting back with an ex is when that ex is the proverbial “the one who got away.”

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Here are some things you need to keep in mind before you decide to begin a new relationship with your “the one who got away.”

Keep Your Expectations Low

There is a high probability that you are the only one who thinks that the relationship is worth another try.

Yes, your ex agreed to reconcile and meet with you, but that cannot mean that he or she is more than excited to get back together with you again.

Never expect your ex to be willing to give your love another go.

Maybe he or she is just trying to be friendly and may want to keep things with you at a platonic level.

Agreeing to be friends with you again or meet with you does not mean anything aside from he or she is just willing to see you.

Lower your expectations so that you will not find yourself severely disappointed at the end of the day when things do not go as you have planned.

When meeting an ex again for the first time, remember to be carefully optimistic without being overly eager to get back with him or her.

Be Responsible for the Breakup

When trying to get back with an ex, old issues may arise on the table and he or she might give you a blow-by-blow account of why you broke up in the first place.

don't just blame your ex for the breakup — **Don’t just blame your ex for the breakup**

In most relationships, it is usually both couples who are at fault for why the relationship never worked out.

When the nasty reasons for the breakup get swept out of the rug, accept responsibility.

Make sure that you are accountable for the part you have played for not making the relationship work in the first place.

Do not blame yourself too much as well.

It is one thing to admit that you fucked up, but dwelling on your mistakes and mourning constantly about your dead-end relationship is another story.

Past is Past is Past

While it is recommended that you have open communication with your ex and discuss why your relationship ended in the first place before deciding to get back together, you must also try not to blame either your ex or yourself too much for the breakup.

Bringing up the ugly issues the first time around is crucial.

You will know what has ruined your relationship, but you should also take the extra time to bury the hatchet and concentrate on the good reasons why you make a wonderful couple.

There are loads of reasons the relationship is worth another chance.

After you have figured out what went wrong the first time, you can now focus on knowing each other again better and having far greater reasons for pursuing the relationship again.